Wednesday, September 24, 2008

How to deal with attention-seeking kids

Kids can be quite attention-seeking and manipulative. While it can be quite funny at times, parents do have a responsibility not to let it get out of hand. While it is normal for children to need attention and approval, attention-seeking becomes a problem when it happens all the time.

We recently noticed Vera deliberately doing things that we prohibit her to do. Things like throwing things on the floor, throwing a tandrum and sticking things into her mouth just to see our reactions. Vitali and I are just learning how to respond appropriately when she does this.

Here are some tips we found here on how to deal with misbehaviour:

1. When your child misbehaves to get your attention, ignore the misbehavior. You will weaken those demands and extinguish the misbehavior. However, there are many misbehaviors that you should not ignore. Some misbehaviors should be punished. If you must use a punishment, dispense the punishment without anger.

2. Do not take good behavior for granted: give your children positive attention when they are behaving.

When you attend to the negative and ignore the positive, you teach your children to behave in a negative way. Your child will misbehave to get your attention in the future. When a child demonstrates good behavior, notice it. Look for it. The more you notice, the more you will find. You will get more good behavior in the future.


Gloria said...

oh yes, i remember this video clip. So funny! Kids being kids, they are always looking for ways to manipulate you. Nic is way pass the rolling on the floor and kicking her feet in the air phase, but sometimes she sure knows how to push my buttons, with finese, till it makes me go grrrrrr

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